FACE SLAPPING
A consensual activity that involves a person slapping another person in the face before and/or during sexual activity. This kink can be seen in BDSM scenarios wherein face slapping is used for humiliation, degradation, and/or control of a submissive by their Dominant.
FELCHING
A sexual activity that involves the act of orally sucking semen out of a person’s anus. This form of Fluid Play may or may not be coupled with Snowballing, in which the person then spits or shares the semen with the person whose anus out of which they just sucked the semen.
FELLATIO
Oral sexual stimulation of a person’s penis by mouth, tongue, lips, and/or teeth. More colloquially known as a BJ or Blow Job.
FEMINIZATION
a.k.a., sissification, forced Feminization is a sexual fetish known within the BDSM and kink subcultures to refer to a reversal of stereotypical gender roles, such as a male submissive taking on a feminine role, which also includes cross-dressing. This may or may not include practices like “sissy training,” where the submissive male undergoes training to act or behave more femininely. It is important to note that feminization is usually practiced by heterosexual men, which differs greatly from being a transgender woman.
FETISH
In kink terms, Fetishes exist when a person is sexually aroused by a non-sexual object, piece of clothing, actions, and / or non-genital anatomy. For instance, foot fetish, which is one of the most common types of fetishes, involves a person being aroused by hearing about, seeing, smelling, and / or touching a person’s foot or feet. Fetishes can be explored safely and are not harmful to a person’s mental health in and of themselves, and are nothing to be ashamed of. In the rare case that a fetish is illicit or dangerous to a person’s physical well-being and / or preoccupies a person’s life in a way that can impede their relationships, personal lives, and / or professional lives, seeking help and advice from a kink-friendly mental health professional is advised.
FFM / FMF
Acronym used in threesome, group sex, or pornography terms where the F stands for Female and M for Male; FFM or FMF means that the sex scene includes two females and one male.
FISTING
A sexual activity in which a person uses their entire hand to stimulate a person’s vagina and / or anus from the inside. When done properly and with the right preparation, Fisting can be extremely pleasurable and stimulate a person’s erogenous areas that are often hard to reach and stimulate via conventional toys and penetration. Fisting can be a very intense experience for the receiver, who requires mental and physical preparation prior to getting fisted, ensuring the person getting fisted is well-lubricated and relaxed. Communication between the receiver and giver is absolutely necessary to ensure a pleasurable and safe time for everyone involved. Fisting can be dangerous and painful if not performed correctly (e.g., scratched by a person’s nails from the inside). For safer fisting play, wearing latex or nitrile gloves is recommended to prevent scratches, abrasions, and the transmission of some sexually-transmitted infections and / or diseases.
FLAGELLATION
Refers to flogging, whipping, or spanking activities that may or may not provide sexual stimulation to the receiver. Flagellation can be used in BDSM scenarios, during which the submissive is flagellated by their Dominant as a means of Discipline. Self-flagellation refers to the practice of doing this to oneself without the assistance of another person.
FLOGGER / FLOGGING
A BDSM tool / sex toy that is used in impact play scenarios, used by a Dominant / Top to flog / whip different areas of their submissive’s / bottom’s back, buttocks, thighs, genitals, and / or other body parts. Floggers are typically made with animal hides such as leather or vegan-friendly materials, which may include plastics, and have tails that deliver a stinging pain on the receiver when being flogged, which can be quite pleasurable. Using floggers or any other kinds of BDSM or impact play implements must be done with extreme caution and care within the guidelines of RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink) practices because flogging someone improperly can cause harm to the receiver (emotional, psychological, and / or physical).
FLUID BONDING
When sexual partners consensually exchange bodily fluids with each other during sex, which typically involves the decision not to use barrier methods and / or protection like condoms or dental dams.
FOREPLAY
Generally refers to sexual activities that are performed before (“fore”) traditional penetrative sex (“play”), which can include kissing / making out, erotic / sensual massage, mutual masturbation, manual stimulation (fingering and/or hand jobs, for instance), oral sex, rimming, using sex toys, et cetera. It is important to note that these foreplay activities can be an end to themselves without requiring any penetrative sex whatsoever as a sequel. Oral sex, for instance, can be just as pleasurable as a sexual act that is not just a prelude to penetrative sex. One of the reasons that the importance of foreplay is often highlighted when it comes to sexual pleasure is because most people, especially those with vulvas, most often can NOT achieve orgasm solely via penetrative sex and require extra stimulation prior to penetration, if any, in order to increase the possibility of an eventual climax.
FRIEND WITH BENEFITS / FWB
A term used to describe a person with whom someone has a predominantly sexual relationship, often without a social and/or emotional involvement.
FULL / HARD SWAP
Within the Open lifestyle and Swinging community, the term “full swap” is typically used in reference to when two Couples exchange partners for the purpose of (typically penetrative) sexual activity
