PADDLING
A term used in BDSM settings that describes when a Dominant is consensually using a Paddle tool on their submissive to provoke pleasurably painful sensations that can enhance the submissive’s sexual arousal and / or erotic feelings of powerlessness.
PEARL NECKLACE
A colloquial term for when a person with a penis ejaculates on or near a person’s neck, chest, and/or breasts
PEGGING
A sexual practice where a person without a penis penetrates a partner’s anus with a strap-on dildo for the purposes of sexual pleasure. Typically, Pegging refers to when the receiver has a penis.
PERVERTIBLE
An everyday object that can often be found around the house and used as a sex toy or BDSM implement on a person’s body for the purposes of sexual stimulation and/or gratification. For instance, using a wooden spoon or ruler to slap someone’s body parts, using clothespins as nipple clamps, and so forth. This term is sometimes also spelled “pervertable.”
PET PLAY
Within the Fetish community, Pet Play refers to a type of animal Roleplay, whereby at least one participant (pet) plays the part of a non-human animal, which usually involves dressing up as, behaving like, playing like, and living like an animal. For instance, someone who is a pet dog might dress up in a full dog costume, eat and drink out of dog dishes, be taken on walks by their Handler, and play with other dogs (other pets who are roleplaying as dogs).
PLAY PARTNER
Another person with whom someone interacts sexually. In the open lifestyle, a Play Partner can also be a person with whom one has a casual but usually not romantic relationship and attends events like swingers parties to play together and / or with other people. The term can also sometimes be used for couples who are each other’s play partners.
POLY / POLYAMORY / POLYAMOROUS
Within the realm of Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) / Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), Polyamory is a type of open relationship style and / or orientation in which a person is involved with more than one partner at the same time. These relationships may be emotional and / or physical in nature. Importantly, within polyamorous relationships, all partners are aware of and Consent to their partner’s arrangements with others, and may or may not have other relationships of their own with others, as well. While there is some overlap between the Swinging and Polyamorous communities, one distinction between these Open relationships is that in Swinging, the focus is primarily sexual, while in Polyamory, partners may seek an emotional element with their partner(s) in addition to a sexual one. Polyamorous relationships do not require every person involved to have relationships with each other, although this could be the case in some relationships. Partners may have different relationships and boundaries with each other partner involved. For instance, Person 1 may be married to and have a family with Person 2, but also be dating Person 3 and Person 4, while Person 2 may be dating Person 5.
POWER EXCHANGE
The Consensual relinquishing and assumption of control as part of or within a BDSM Kink dynamic (Domination/submission).
PRIMAL
A form of BDSM, primal play is practiced by “primals” who express their raw, animalistic side during sexual activity. Stronger vocalizations, such as growling, and physical behaviors like scratching and wrestling, are common. Some primals also emulate specific non-human animals during sessions.
PUSSY WORSHIP
An erotic and/or sexual practice involving a person pleasuring, stimulating, and/or cleaning / shaving another person’s vulva. This may be any type of stimulation but usually refers to delivering manual and/or oral types of pleasure. Within the context of kinky relationships and/or the BDSM community, Pussy Worship can be referred to when a submissive shows their reverence to, and deference toward, their Dominant.
