UNICORN
A term used within the Open lifestyle, the Swinging Lifestyle, and in ethically / consensually non-monogamous relationships to identify single females or female-identified individuals who are ideally Bisexual and open to playing with Couples for Threesomes and others within a Swinging or Open Relationship. It is not easy to find Unicorns, and they are so-called because of how rare they are to find. Outside the context of swinging, for other forms of open relationships, such as in Polyamorous relationships, couples may seek a Unicorn to add a third into their relationship and form a Triad together (i.e., the Unicorn would fit perfectly into their relationship). In these latter cases, the Unicorn is often expected to be subject to the couple’s rules and boundaries and decisions, and subject to Couples Privilege, rather than being equal to each individual in the couple within the relationship and being consulted to have equal weight in the decision-making process within the relationship.
UNICORN HUNTING
The act of searching for a Unicorn, like when a Couple is looking for a unicorn for a Threesome or Group Sex experience, and/or, in the context of Polyamory, finding a Unicorn to add to an existing relationship (i.e., to form a Triad). This can include using dating websites or apps and meeting unicorns in person at erotic events and Sex / Swingers Clubs.
VAGINISMUS
A physical and/or psychological condition involving muscle spasms in the pelvic floor muscles (of a person who has a vagina), which can cause pain and make it difficult or even impossible to have penetrative sex or play, to undergo a gynecological exam, or even to insert a tampon. Vaginismus can be very difficult for a person to live with and can cause a lot of psychological distress. Treatments for vaginismus are far-ranging and lengthy and can include psychological and medical treatments involving medication, the use of dilators that gradually increase in thickness, surgery, and other treatments.
VAGINITIS
Inflammation of the vagina that can result in discharge, itching, and pain. This inflammation is often treatable with medication and medical care.
VANILLA
Within the context of the Open / Swinging community, someone is considered Vanilla when they are not within the open lifestyle (i.e., is monogamous and not in an open relationship). Vanilla can also refer to someone who prefers conventional sexual activities, especially when compared to BDSM, Kink, or Fetish practitioners.
VIOLET WAND
A device used in electrical play which safely produces low-intensity electrical sparks when it touches the body and is used for sexual stimulation and/or gratification, often within the context of BDSM. Violet wands must be used with caution.
VIXEN
In Hotwifing scenarios, a Vixen is a Hotwife, i.e., a woman or female-identifying individual who has sex with people besides her primary partner, at the encouragement of her primary partner (usually known as a Stag).
VOYEURISM
A voyeur is a person who enjoys watching others having sex, i.e., an individual who engages in voyeurism. A voyeur can become sexually aroused at the sight of other people engaging in sexual activities and may also choose to pleasure themselves sexually as they watch others performing sexual acts in front of them.
WATER SPORTS / WATERSPORTS
Sexual activity in which urine is involved. For instance, “Golden Showers” are a type of Watersport defined as someone who is sexually aroused by the act of someone peeing on them or the person who is doing the urinating on the other person. Watersports may also include consuming someone else’s urine.
