DEMISEXUAL
A term used to describe people who are only sexually attracted to someone if they have an emotional bond with that person. Anyone of any gender identity or sexual orientation can be demisexual. It might be difficult for a demisexual person to feel fulfilled within the Swinging lifestyle because their need for emotional intimacy is often discouraged within the swinging community, which usually focuses mostly on the physically sexual aspects of relationships rather than emotional connections.
DISCIPLINARIAN
An authority role played by a Dominant or Top in a BDSM scene, a Disciplinarian employs discipline as a preferred form of domination on their submissive / bottom.
DISCIPLINE
Also known as “behavior correction” or a form of “obedience training” within the BDSM community, “Discipline” is when the Dominant / Top consensually employs the use of Bondage, Impact Play, and/or psychological pain / domination on their submissive / bottom, with the goal of making their bottom obey them. The Dominant and/or submissive often derive sexual arousal and/or gratification from these practices.
DISCREET / DISCRETION
Refers to an individual who is exercising and seeking caution when it comes to communication and shared media to keep their lifestyle secret, often because they do not want their activities known by others. Anyone might seek discretion, but this might be more common in the contexts of Kink and/or Open communities.
DOCILE
Within the Kink community, docile refers to a submissive individual who is willing to receive Bondage and/or discipline from a Dominant.
DOGGY-STYLE
A sex position where the receiver of penetration is on all fours (hands and knees) and their penetrating partner is behind them in a standing or kneeling position.
DOMESTIC TRAINING
Within the context of BDSM, domestic training is a form of submissive obedience, whereby the Dominant consensually makes their submissive (bottom) do household chores with the goal of training their bottom to obey them and serve them. These chores are often coupled with the Dominant using humiliating and sadistic physical and/or psychological “torture” or “abuse” to train their submissive.
DOMINANT / DOM / DOMME
Dominance can be physical and / or psychological. This is done by the Dominant (a.k.a., Dom / Domme or Master / Mistress or Top) to the submissive (a.k.a., sub or slave or bottom). It can involve everything from verbal commands (e.g., “you’re mine”) to physical commands (“get on your knees”).
DOUBLE ANAL PENETRATION / DAP
Refers to a sexual activity in which a person is consensually anally penetrated by two (i.e., double) phalluses or phallic objects / devices simultaneously, such as within the context of a Threesome or Group Sex.
DOUBLE PENETRATION / DP
Double Penetration means that both the vagina and anus are penetrated during sexual play. DVP refers to Double Vaginal Penetration, which means that two phalluses are penetrating the vagina simultaneously, while DAP (a.k.a., Double Anal Penetration) refers to two phalluses penetrating the anus at the same time. In an Airtight, double penetration is involved as well as simultaneous oral penetration and often happens in Group Sex or Orgy scenarios.
DOUBLE VAGINAL PENETRATION / DVP
An acronym that stands for Double Vaginal Penetration, whereby someone with a vagina receives penetration from two phalluses (which can be penises or dildos) at the same time, such as within the context of a Threesome or Group sex.
DUNGEON
A room or area with BDSM equipment and / or play space; does not have to be underground.
DUNGEON MASTER
Within the BDSM community and Kink play, a Dungeon Master (a.k.a., a DM) is a supervisor who enforces house rules at a play Party House or Dungeon to ensure that Consent and safety are respected.
