HALL PASS
A slang term that describes the act of when a person (typically who is in a closed monogamous relationship or monogamish relationship) “allows” their partner to have sex with another person outside of their relationship. A hall pass is usually thought of as a one-time occurrence. A hall pass can be relevant to a specific person (e.g., “if you ever meet Brad Pitt, you can have sex with him”) or a time period (e.g., “you can have sex with anyone you want to this weekend while I’m out of town”). The idea of a hall pass is so attractive for people in monogamous relationships that various movies have been based on this concept and/or made reference to wanting / having a hall pass.
HANDLER
Within the BDSM community, a Handler is a person with a Dominant role in a Pet Play dynamic, who assumes full responsibility for their submissive or bottom, who is known as the Handler’s pet in these contexts.
HARD LIMIT
A non-negotiable sexual act that someone will not do.
HARDCORE
A Swingers party or gathering where sexual interaction is expected.
HEDONIST
Someone who lives for sensual pleasure.
HETEROFLEXIBLE
Usually refers to a person who is heterosexual but, in given scenarios or with certain people, may entertain the idea of sexual play with someone of the same gender.
HOGTIE / HOGTYPING
A method of tying up someone’s wrists and ankles with ropes or cuffs in such a way that their ankles are bound together and their wrists are bound together, with a ring or rope that then binds the wrists and ankles together behind their back. Binding someone in a Hogtie position immobilizes the bound person. Within the BDSM community, this is a popular way for a Dominant to restrain a submissive.
HORNY
A colloquial term used for a sexually aroused person.
HOT HUSBANDRY
Hot Husbandry is the male-gendered version of hotwifing, whereby a man’s partner reaps sexual arousal and enjoyment from consensually knowing about / watching their partner / husband have sex with someone else. Despite the terminology, Hot Husbandry does not actually require that the partners be married; it is enough to be in a relationship.
HOTEL TAKEOVER
A term used in the swinging lifestyle community to refer to when a hotel venue is booked for a swingers-only event, which means that there may be sexy themed parties, erotic events, designated rooms for play areas, and other swingers activities throughout the duration of the takeover.
HOTWIFE
A woman / female-identified person who has a hotwifing dynamic with her (typically male) partner. A woman does not actually have to be married to be a hotwife.
HOTWIFING
Known as both a Roleplay Fetish and Open relationship style, Hotwifing refers to when a woman (Hotwife) has sex with people outside of their relationship with the full Consent, permission, and encouragement from her partner. Hot Husbandry has the same dynamics as hotwifing, though the partner is male or male-presenting. In hotwifing relationships, the hotwife’s partner derives erotic enjoyment from hearing about and / or watching their female partner having sex with someone else, including the preparation for the play sessions (getting dressed, planning locations, settings, etc.), choosing their hotwife’s play partner (Bull), communications with their hotwife’s play partner, and so forth. In hotwifing, the partner is often not present during / involved in the sexual scenarios but thrives on the details of their hotwife’s encounter, either after the sex session or even during, via phone calls / videos / photos.
HUMILIATION
Erotic or sexual Humiliation is a consensual act wherein the feeling of embarrassment (which can range from mild to severe) and the psychological effects can evoke erotic excitement and / or sexual arousal. This can be verbal, in the form of insults or mockery, as well as physical, like being consensually forced to do something.
HUNG
A slang term that often refers to when a person has a large penis.
